One of the most common problems of children at school is bullying. Bullying can lead to many other problems. For instance, your children may want to start skipping school because of fear and anxiety. Bullying can lower your children’s self esteem. Some victims of bullies may feel depressed. Other victims develop aggressive behaviors toward other children. Bullying can range from verbally teasing to physically hitting.

Unfortunately, approximately ten percent of children are the victims of bullies. Children who are quiet, anxious, sensitive, or small are more vulnerable for bulling. Believe it or not, most victims of bullies will not seek help from the teacher or parents, because they may fear the bullies. Therefore, it is important for the parents to learn how to recognize the signs of the problem. For instance, some children constantly complain about being teased at school. Other children may tell you that they are sick all the time to avoid the school.

If you know that your children are bullied at school, what should you do? Although, parents in many movies encourage their children to fight back, it is not the best thing to do. Your children can get hurt, and they can be in trouble for fighting back. You should teach your children to walk away, and they should tell the bully to stop. The bullies need to understand that their behavior will not be tolerated. Tell you children to talk to teacher to help. If it still does not work, you should schedule a meeting with the other parents and teacher.

If you think parenting one child drives you to the nearest
Starbucks for a double espresso latte, try parenting two. See if you can relate to this article on parenting:

The day my twin daughters were born was the proudest day of
my life. I was a celebrity in the hospital while I recovered
from my labor. Little did I know that the days, months and
years ahead would have me crying, screaming, threatening and
sometimes regretting bringing these children into the world.

I was a young mother just out of college with a bright future
and big plans. When I discovered that I was pregnant, I put
some of those big plans on hold to be become the perfect
parent to my perfect little angels. I spent the first four years of their lives catering
to their ever whim. We went to parks, amusement arcades,
the zoo. We participated in all the Mom and tot activities
at the YMCA. It was a wonderful time for all of us.

The problems started in junior high school. One day I
visited the school,unannounced, signed in at the office
and was allowed to walk around the school to find my precious
darlings. What a found was not one but two “little floozy(s)” dressed
in skin-tight jeans with mascara and eyeliner so thick that
they resembled twin raccoons. I was mortified and embarrassed.

Not only were they changing clothes when they arrived
at school, they were changing their behavior. Their
Behavior was not good. My little darlings were out of control.

I was livid. That night my rage could not be controled.
I threatened them. I screamed at them and cried. It was
this moment that I regretted ever bringing them into the world.
For the next week, I barely spoke to them. I did
not prepare a meal for them nor did I provide
any spending money for their little extras.

I did not know what to do. At work the next
day, I cried on my friend’s shoulder. She led me
to a breakthrough that changed all
of our lives. A summary of some of the things
she told me I still use to deal with my children.

1) Do not try to be a friend to your children
but treat them as if they were your friend.
Always be the parent. Parent your children
with respect and value their opinions. You don’t scream at your friends, you don’t
berate them or threaten. offer constructive
criticism. Always try to couch your tone and
the words you use with a true concern for their
feelings.

2) The key to getting your children to listen
to you is – listen to them.

3) Always know who their friends are. Make it
a point to observe your children with their
friends. You will get a better insight
into how your children behave when you are
not around.

4) When your children talk about what their
friends are doing… they are really talking
about themselves. Offer advice as if you
are talking about their friend… not to them.

5) Build a relationship with each child
individually and then collectively.

6) Teach little acts of kindness These kind
thoughts and action accumulate over time.
Kindess forms a shield around the relationship
for the hard knocks that are sure to come.

7) Demand that they get involved with an
extra curricular activity. Then make the
same demand of yourself to get involved
With their school, activity, or club.

Being a parent takes work. The challenges
and conflicts in our parent-child relationship
did not change overnight. But the conflicts
diminished and our relationship did change
for the better.