The Terrible Two’s and all Other Ages!
Bringing up kids need not be a difficult, or a discipline-intensive process.
They’re not in the military, but a few essential skills, applied the right way, can make all the diffrerence.
It is always a good idea to remember that all kids are human beings- little people, and people with ideas, and feelings, just like us.
Of course, you know this.
I would prefer to come over in a respectful way, but would also like to point out that there are better ways than having to shout at our kids all the time, if we wish to maintain our authority.
| Seeds of Greatness
The Value-Based Family
Enrichment Program
for 21st Century Leaders by Dr. Denis Waitley and
Dr. Maryann Rosenthal
The instruction manual that should have been delivered with each child.
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10 Core Roots and Wings
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It is better explained below here:
“It is far better to give your children your time and nurturing in the form of Roots and Wings instead of trying to buy their affection with Loot and Things. What do we mean by Roots and Wings? We must have roots in order to grow strong and weather the buffeting winds of unforeseen storms and the challenges of weeds and droughts. These are character traits fundamental to long-term success, regardless of future environmental conditions. By wings, we mean the motivation, goal orientation and optimism to soar and fly, becoming independent, high achieving adults who make a positive difference in life.”
With solid roots, children are prepared to leave their parents’ gardens. The planting of the seeds of greatness in kids takes patience and persistence. Character growth is not always immediate or obvious. If, for example, you were to plant the seed of a Chinese bamboo tree, and water and nurture the seed consistently, you could become frustrated and even discouraged, unless you knew the growth cycle of the tree. There is no visible growth the first, second, third, or fourth year. But during the fifth year, the tree will grow about ninety feet in six weeks! Did the tree really wait five years to begin growing? Of course not. The nurturing of the first four years allowed the tree to develop a strong root system which could accommodate the tremendous, visible growth that fifth year.
It is often the same in raising children. Values and character traits are not instilled overnight or by preaching. They are formed over time through modeling and repetition. Values are more often caught, than taught. Although we don’t often see the immediate consequences or rewards of the thoughts planted in our children’s minds, in due time, they will reap what has been sown. We have identified what we feel are the five most important, underlying roots of healthy family growth, including Positive Self-Awareness, knowing yourself and your children’s potential; Positive Self-Esteem, the core values inherent in all enduring winners; and, perhaps, most important, Positive Self-Discipline, which is the development of healthy habits through training and taking positive action to correct behavior, rather than use coercive punishment to stop behavior. Positive Self-Determination, the ability to be responsible for outcomes and to make effective choices in life; and Positive Self-Honesty, the moral compass and integrity that is the cornerstone of authentic leadership, which most often is learned in the home environment. By learning these critical roots, our kids not only believe they are as good as the best, not necessarily better than the rest, they respect every individual as having the equal right to feel worthy of success regardless of status, ethnicity, background, profession or beliefs. Instead of the labels of material success, they will have core values that endure. With these roots, they also can go full circle and overcome any adversity that life or society throws at them. Going full circle is like Lance Armstrong, overcoming cancer, falling off his bike during the Tour de France, and getting back on the bike, and gutting it out up the mountain, to claim the yellow jersey and win over and over again.
In addition to giving our children roots, we parents have the additional responsibility of providing the wind beneath our children’s wings so they can fly from our nests as confident, optimistic adults. The majestic eagle is the symbol of freedom and determination in America. We can learn much from the lifestyle of the eagle family. The eagle parents know the day is coming when their children must make their own way. They know the real challenge for the eaglet is learning how to fly! Like the eagles, we parents have as our primary role to provide the love and early roots, and then the skills to create the wind beneath our children’s wings. We must take care that our homes are not so all-providing and over-indulging that there is no motivation or challenge for self-determination. By keeping our children as dependents, too long, or not providing the leadership skills to help them navigate the currents and storms in life, we are clipping their wings and removing the wind. The five modules that comprise the Wings’ character traits include Positive Self-Motivation, or the inner fire of desire; Positive Self-Expectancy, so kids can handle setbacks and problems with resiliency and optimism; Positive Self-Imagination so they tap into their creative imaginations and design their futures; Positive Self-Direction, the focus and stair-step ability of turning dreams into reachable goals, and Positive Self-Dimension, which is living with spiritual depth, joy and harmony.
| Seeds of Greatness
The Value-Based Family
Enrichment Program
for 21st Century Leaders by Dr. Denis Waitley and
Dr. Maryann Rosenthal
The instruction manual that should have been delivered with each child.
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|
10 Core Roots and Wings
Tips for Younger Kids,
Teens,
Blended Families
Achievement Lifeguide
Perpetual Coaching Calendar
Free Shipping*
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